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Gordon Purcey

Gordon Purcey

Hi! My name is Gordon Purcey. My wife Jan and I have been attending Watermark for just over five years now. We have three grown and married adult children, and nine grandchildren. I've been blessed to be involved in the Great Questions ministry, and have recently begun to dig deeper into Christian apologetics.

By the time you read this, Jan and I will have celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary. I know that makes us sound old, but we started early, and God's grace made this possible! Except for Jesus, she is the greatest gift I have been privileged to receive!

February 24, 2014

HOW TO BE MARRIED OR SINGLE (CHOOSE ONE ONLY!)

1 Corinthians 7:1-16
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1 Corinthians 7:1-16

Principles for Marriage

7:1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Now as a concession, not a command, I say this. [1] I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.

To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

10 To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband 11 (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.

12 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you [2] to peace. 16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? (ESV)

Footnotes

[1] 7:6 Or I say this:
[2] 7:15 Some manuscripts us

Comments

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  1. Scott Jones

    Feb 24, 2014 12:40

    Hope, your prediction may be true. That is quite an indictment of a country based on the "consent of the governed." We need to be praying for a spiritual awakening.

  2. Valerie Westfall

    Feb 24, 2014 09:53

    Gordy, we appreciate your enlightening teaching today and your leadership in our community group. Thanks for leading with truth and humility. Valerie & Don

  3. Trey Collins

    Feb 24, 2014 09:33

    Gordon, enjoyed the read. Thankful for your service at Watermark, praying for you today!

  4. Jay Burns

    Feb 24, 2014 08:12

    Gordy, your photo brought a smile to my face this morning as I started on the journey. It encourages me so to see our body benefiting from your service. You have been so solid and faithful over the years. Congrats on your marriage, and great work on a difficult topic. You clarified some points that are very confusing to understand. I agree with you that the older I get and the more "storms of life" we encounter the greater comfort I have knowing the God knew all of the hardships and challenges that we would encounter and made sure He covered it in his "Instruction manual"...I am more certain every morning that everything I need to guide me is in His Word. Hope to see you soon, my friend. Great job.

  5. Patricia Simmons

    Feb 24, 2014 07:55

    Good and insightful commentary, Gordy. Bill and I are honored to share life with you and Jan. You both are great examples of God's grace in your marriage and family. You selflessly give of your time and treasure to further God's kingdom by loving others well. We are blessed by you both.

  6. Merry Cherry

    Feb 24, 2014 06:40

    Happy Anniversary to you and Jan!!

  7. HopeH

    Feb 24, 2014 06:14

    Thanks for prayers for the Bohlins! Their airline put them up in a hotel with meals and they have safely arrived in Menske. Continue to pray for them; Sue will face climbing stairs for the next three weeks and her mobility is limited due to the polio. Marriage has been a painful subject for me to deal with in my own journey as a Christian. I once heavily advocated for Marriage equality. Over time I have worked through the issue and have come into agreement with the Biblical definition of marriage. "A lifelong committed relationship between one man and one woman." Furthermore I believe that sexual purity is the best way for all people to honor God. I didn't arrive to this place overnight but I will say it is an extremely important issue to settle for every follower of Christ. Here in the USA our country is rapidly moving towards national recognition of Same Sex Marriage. As of February 13, 2014, its legal in 17 states. I believe within three-five years it will be legal in all 50. It is an important matter to settle for every believer. Those who side with the Biblical view are already seen as bigoted and intolerant. However, I have concluded it is a matter of siding with truth. That decision has been a costly one for me.

  8. Sue Bohlin

    Feb 24, 2014 04:05

    Wow, Gordon, really good stuff! Thank you! I was blessed by Paul's comment about the effect of a Christ-follower on an unbelieving spouse, since we get to see it lived out in my sister's life--a fellow Journeyer. God blesses her husband with the daily privilege of seeing the winsomeness and beauty of Jesus put on display in their home, especially as she adores and respects him with supernatural grace. . . . In other news, many thanks to our brother Lee for asking for prayer for us while stranded in Frankfurt. God blessed us with "Lufthansa grace," who gave us vouchers for a lovely hotel room, meals, and transportation to and from the airport. We are now safely in Belarus, asking for my bag to arrive today, which I haven't seen since Thursday morning. The other 3 eventually got here, but not mine. In the scope of eternity, though, what does it matter?

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